What She Needs Before She Can Be Sexual With You Again

Want to know what she needs before she can be sexual with you again? Learn what emotional safety means and how as men we struggle with it because we’re such problem solvers, but the good news is that you know how to do this already – you do it with your kids all the time!!

In this episode I talk about how our natural state is one of relaxation and play and how that’s the state we return to when we feel emotionally cared about and safe, I discuss what factors affect the level of safety, what it looks and sounds like to not feel safe emotionally and how to start changing this dynamic in your marriage.

In the video below I explain this in more detail including:

Why creating an environment where she feels safe is so important if you want her to be more playful, flirtatious, enthusiastic, passionate, relaxed and overall more fun.

How a lack of safety, a lack of feeling like a priority to you, a lack of feeling understood and cared for can lead to a lack of high regard coming back towards you (e.g. are you experiencing criticism in your relationship?) and ends in her hiding behind her phone or her cold, disengaged wall of self-protection.

Humans are naturally evolved to be aware of our surroundings and the way someone communicates with us, as an indication of how safe we are to relax and be loving and affectionate.

Creating a safe environment in your relationship helps improve both the level of connection and the way you communicate with each other, especially around difficult topics like intimacy and sex.

Choosing curiosity and intrigue over judgement and self defense can lead to a better, deeper relationship.

I go into this in more detail in the video below. If you would like some 1-to-1 support on how to move forward with your current life situation, fill out my contact form and I’ll get in touch to arrange a free 60 minute coaching session with you.

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About the author

Hi, I'm Dan. I've been a men’s coach for over 10 years with Goodguys2Greatmen, mentoring and coaching men to get clear on what they want and creating practical and actionable plans to make it happen. I’ve experienced many of the same challenges you're going through right now. I’m here to challenge you and help you understand what's holding you back so that you can step into the confident, successful man you were meant to be.