Why Women Back Away When We’re Not Confident

It’s annoying when women back away when we’re not confident but there’s a very good reason for it that flies in the face of modern societal beliefs that men and women are the same. We are equal in terms of rights, but we are not the same and this is very apparent when we’re talking about taking risks vs needing emotional safety, especially around intimacy.

In this episode I talk about why we use horses as a metaphor for men to learn why emotional safety is so important for women, I also talk about what holds us back from providing this safety and why we will remain stuck at the same level of relationship until we learn to lead this forward – yes you must go first.

In the video below I explain this in more detail including:

Why women’s sensitivity to your confidence in your long term relationship or marriage stems from her need to feel safe and secure to be able to relax and be vulnerable and intimate with you.

How our lack of confidence can put her off exploring new intimate experiences with us.

Why women feel so unsafe when they sense tentativeness, a lack of confidence or some fear in their man.

Why women prioritize feeling safe and choose not to open up and expose themselves to potentially intense and vulnerable intimate moments if they don’t feel secure.

How working on your self-worth, self-respect, and self-confidence to overcome insecurity can help with creating the security and safety she needs to be intimate again.

When men feel insecure and anxious they lack confidence and end up getting frustrated because they don’t understand how their emotional state is pushing her away.

Why women need to feel a reliable emotional connection from men to feel safe because it’s predictable.

How understanding and being aware of our own behavior and emotions can help men communicate confidently and lead the connection with her.

I go into this in more detail in the video below. If you would like some 1-to-1 support on how to move forward with your current life situation, fill out my contact form and I’ll get in touch to arrange a free 60 minute coaching session with you.

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About the author

Hi, I'm Dan. I've been a men’s coach for over 10 years with Goodguys2Greatmen, mentoring and coaching men to get clear on what they want and creating practical and actionable plans to make it happen. I’ve experienced many of the same challenges you're going through right now. I’m here to challenge you and help you understand what's holding you back so that you can step into the confident, successful man you were meant to be.