Wife Won’t Talk About Sex With You?

Do you have this annoying problem too? You want to have a great, passionate, sexual marriage but your wife won’t talk about sex with you and whenever you try it always goes badly?

In this episode I talk about 3 options you have to deal with this situation, what happens when you try each option and which has the best chance of creating more safety, intimacy, connection and even laughter.

In the video below I explain this in more detail including:

Why when your wife won’t talk about sex, focusing on connection, creating understanding, empathy and intimacy which creates a much healthier way to communicate about sex with your partner.

Why is it that your wife won’t talk about sex with you? Why is it that trying to talk to her about it is causing arguments and frustration – the opposite of creating connection and intimacy in the relationship.

Why when your wife won’t talk about sex, avoiding arguing and learning how to be the leader of the connection will create the safety she needs to be able to talk about this stuff more in the future.

How to not give up on what you want while also not getting sucked into fighting to the death and trying to “win” the argument will help create a healthier communication pattern which in turn will develop into being able to have the conversations about sex with your partner in the future.

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Why it’s better to focus on finding something to appreciate about her instead, even if it’s appreciating how strong she is in protecting her boundaries about not doing something that makes her uncomfortable (this is actually a great path to creating connection because she will feel like you understand her more).

Why every argument is an opportunity for connection and leadership, so instead of fighting, find a way to turn it into a point of connection and lead it somewhere different.

Why complimenting your wife’s character is a great way to help her relax and open up.

Why bringing more of a playful energy to your interactions is essential, find something attractive about her to change the dynamic of the conversation about sex from one of criticism and intensity to laughter, lightheartedness and relaxation.

Why using humor in your relationship is one of the most powerful ways to connect and lead the relationship out of tension and into fun again.

Why it’s important to start to lead the energy of the communication between you with confidence and warmth if you want to strengthen your relationship.

I go into this in more detail in the video below. If you would like some 1-to-1 support on how to move forward with your current life situation, fill out my contact form and I’ll get in touch to arrange a free 60 minute coaching session with you.

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About the author

Hi, I'm Dan. I've been a men’s coach for over 10 years with Goodguys2Greatmen, mentoring and coaching men to get clear on what they want and creating practical and actionable plans to make it happen. I’ve experienced many of the same challenges you're going through right now. I’m here to challenge you and help you understand what's holding you back so that you can step into the confident, successful man you were meant to be.