Your Wife Needs You To Be Confident

Have you heard that your Wife Needs You To Be Confident to be attracted to you? Confidence is an attractive trait in a partner, this is especially true for women when it comes to men and long-term relationships or marriage.

She needs you to understand this. It’s not a judgement of you. She is responding to you all the time.

She wants you to feel confident in yourself, for YOU first and then for her.

Women are naturally drawn to men who are self-assured and secure in themselves. A man who is confident exudes a sense of strength, leadership, and stability, which can be incredibly alluring to a woman.

However, confidence is not just about physical appearance or wealth. It’s about a man’s ability to own his masculine strength, own his power, to know himself, to be true to himself, and to be comfortable in his own skin.

Confidence is a key ingredient in building a strong and healthy relationship.

When you are confident, you are more likely to take the initiative and make decisions – something that your wife loves to feel that you’re willing to do.

When you’re confident, you’re also more likely to communicate openly and honestly, which is essential for building trust and intimacy. On the other hand, when you are not confident, you may be struggling with self-doubt and insecurity, which can create confusion and a lack of safety in your relationship.

Confidence is also a key factor in your ability to be a good leader.

When you are confident in yourself, you’re more likely to be decisive and take action, which can be very attractive to your partner. You’re also more likely to be a good listener and to take her needs and desires into consideration.

In contrast, when you lack confidence, you may struggle to take charge and make important decisions, which can be a turn off for your wife – often this comes out of her as pulling away, going quiet or alternatively challenging you and criticising you (she wants to feel your strength and confidence but doesn’t know how to ask for it in a way that inspires and supports you).

In today’s society, women are often expected to be strong and independent. However, this does not mean that they don’t need men to be confident.

When you are confident, you provide a sense of security and stability that women crave.

When you are confident you also provide a sense of protection and safety, which is incredibly important to your romantic partner.

Confidence also plays a big role in your ability to be romantic and spontaneous, which is also very attractive to your wife.

When you are confident you’re more open to trying new things and to being adventurous, which creates excitement and passion in your relationship.

In contrast, when you lack confidence, you may struggle to be romantic and may be more tentative, more reserved and less spontaneous.

Confidence is also important when it comes to intimacy. When you’re confident you are comfortable and relaxed in knowing who you are as a man and lover. You try new things, you’re more adventurous in the bedroom, you know how to create excitement and passion and sexual tension.

In contrast, when you lack confidence, you may struggle with intimacy and may be more awkward and less direct with your sexual desire and intentions.

Some traits of a confident man are:

  1. Communicate openly and honestly: Confident leaders in intimacy make sure to communicate openly and honestly with their partner about their needs and desires. This creates a safe space for vulnerability and allows for deeper intimacy to flourish.
  2. Be decisive and take the initiative: Confident leaders in intimacy take the initiative to initiate physical touch and affection, and make decisions about when and how to be intimate. This shows their partner that they are comfortable and confident in their desires and can help to build trust and intimacy.
  3. Be a good listener: Confident leaders in intimacy are also good listeners. They take the time to understand their partner’s needs and desires, and make an effort to incorporate them into their intimacy. This shows that they care about their partner’s pleasure and well-being, and creates a deeper emotional connection.
  4. Be open to trying new things: Confident leaders in intimacy are open to trying new things and experimenting with different ways of being intimate. This shows their partner that they are comfortable and confident in their desires, and that they are willing to grow and evolve in the relationship.
  5. Be willing to self-improve: Confident leaders in intimacy are willing to work on themselves and improve their intimacy skills. This can include reading books, attending workshops, or seeking therapy. This shows that they are committed to the relationship and that they value intimacy.

Confidence is a crucial trait for men to possess in order to be attractive to women. When you are self-assured and secure in yourself, you exude a sense of strength, leadership, and stability (also called masculine strength) that can be very attractive to your partner.

Confidence is essential for building a strong and healthy relationship. It creates more open communication, more trust, more respect and deeper intimacy.

When you become confident in yourself as a man, you naturally become a good leader, a good listener, and a good lover, which are all very important qualities in an attractive partner.

Your wife needs you to be confident, so she can feel safe, secure, and protected in your relationship.

If you want to start learning how to become a more confident man, husband, leader and lover today, contact me here to setup a free 60 minute consultation call where we identify what’s holding you back and map out the areas to focus on to start changing today.

About the author

Hi, I'm Dan. I've been a men’s coach for many years, mentoring and coaching men to get clear on what they want and creating practical and actionable plans to make it happen. I’ve experienced many of the same challenges you're going through right now. I’m here to challenge you and help you understand what's holding you back so that you can step into the confident, successful man you were meant to be.

Frequently Asked Questions


Is my coaching right for you?

My coaching process was created for men who want to feel happier and more fulfilled in their life and relationships. I teach you how to have more confidence and clarity about what you want in your life and create an action plan to start making it happen.

Do you only work with men in marriage?

While my coaching teaches you how to create a more connected, more fun and passionate marriage, I also work with you to have more clarity, enthusiasm and fulfillment in all areas of your life. I help you understand what you really want your future to look like and I also teach you how to be in control of your emotions so that you can be confident and assertive no matter how difficult your circumstances are right now .

What happens in the free 60-minute coaching call?

In our free initial coaching calls, I listen a lot, I ask you questions to understand what life is really like for you at the moment, I help you identify what you want to be different and what's holding you back from creating those changes now. Then I help you create a practical plan of action to start moving forward straight away.

What will I learn in your coaching programs?

I take you through a process to:

  • Stop being tentative and become more focused and directed.
  • Develop control over your thoughts and emotions like never before.
  • Become a master of the masculine and feminine dance required for a more passionate connection in your romantic relationships.
  • Build and sustain your personal masculine confidence so that you don't get "triggered" or feel disrespected and can respond with strength and confidence to any situation.
  • Become more connected, aware and present with everyone (this is a critical step in your ability to build attraction and desire as well as have people trust you and respect you more).
  • Stop the destructive emotions of anger and resentment which keep you going around in frustrating cycles and start from moving forward with purpose.
  • Stop being anxious, needy and overly reliant upon other people's opinions and approval of you and start feeling more peace, happiness and a deep sense of being a man who is confident in himself again.
  • You will become a confident man who knows his values, what he wants and where he’s going in his life.
  • You will learn how to think, speak and act according to your values without worrying about reactions from others.
  • You become clear and confident in your ability to create intimacy whenever you want.
  • Your confidence will be something that you start to rely on and trust in every part of your life.

How does the coaching program work?

You will have either 2 or 4 coaching calls with me per month, continual access to me via messenger or email throughout the process, ongoing assignments and resources to help you stay focused and grow and develop as a confident masculine man. It's like having a trusted mentor in your pocket, ready to help whenever you need it.

Why do you only offer 1-to-1 coaching and not group coaching?

I prefer to work with men 1-to-1 because I can really get to know you and unearth the best path forward for you and your current circumstances.

1-to-1 has the benefit over group coaching of creating much faster progress towards what you want to change in your life. You get much more personal time and attention with 1-to-1 coaching and it's adapted to your specific circumstances so provides the specific practical advice you need to know what to think, say and do to create the future you want.

What kind of man is right for your coaching?

I work with men who are willing to take the lead in creating the changes they want in their life and relationships. I only work with men who want to understand their fears, insecurities and shame triggers. I teach you practical ways to deal with the mental and emotional challenges life throws at you and help you reach an unshakeable confidence in yourself (often for the first time in your life).

  • You won’t find negative, hateful language.
  • You won’t find a gender war – I don’t bash women.
  • You won’t find bitching, whining, complaining, and blaming.
  • You won’t feel like a victim anymore.
  • You won’t experience any judgment or criticism (seems obvious but a lot of the men I speak to have felt this from past therapists or coaches that they have worked with).

I don't waste our time with all those things because I want to take the most efficient and effective path to creating the future you want. So I focus only on the things that are within your control: your thoughts, your words and your actions.

How do I know if I need coaching?

If you are feeling unhappy a lot of the time, if you're lonely, drained, lost, stuck or trapped, then our coaching will help. If you're not sure where your life is headed, if you're not confident in yourself, if you're not sure what you really want in life anymore...my coaching will help.

Whether it’s your job, your intimate relationship, or just wanting to feel more happy and with more purpose, then my coaching will help.

If you are tired of settling for a mediocre life or relationship, tolerating criticism and a lack of fun and intimacy and you're done with placating and playing it safe, then my coaching will help.

I will help you have clarity about what you're REALLY passionate about. I will get you clear about where you want to be in six months and in six years. I help you figure out what you really want to create vs what other people think you should do.

I help you take action, get unstuck, start moving forward. I help you find what matters instead of just "being busy" in the daily grind. I help you figure out how you're going to get from where you are now to where you want to be.

For many of the guys I work with, they find a peace and a sense of emotional freedom that has them shaking their heads and smiling at how they used to approach life. They feel passionate about life again. They build stronger relationships with the people that matter most to them. They feel satisfied and fulfilled that they have finally found the “right path” forward and life starts to feel fun and inspiring again.

So now you've read that...what do you think? Would YOU like to try some of my coaching for free?