How To Make A Decision That Scares You
Do you have a decision to make that has you feeling scared and stuck? Maybe you’re unhappy in your marriage or miserable in your career but you feel petrified of the ramifications of the decision.
In this episode I talk about a tool you can use to help you be more confident in your choices going forward as well as becoming more peaceful and calm in your self worth and self trust in making the right decisions in the future especially if they scare you.
In the video below I explain this in more detail including:
Why cultivating active patience, listening to your intuition, and maintaining confidence in difficult situations are important traits for men to develop in order to achieve their goals and move forward.
Why patience is a strong masculine trait that when used in an active way helps you make decisions that are the right ones for you and the future you want to experience.
How passive patience keeps you stuck, waiting for external signs to change before you can move forward, whereas active patience uses actively seeking information in the right way to make decisions and move forward with confidence.
How to be confident in your own wisdom and take deliberate action through listening to your intuition.
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How to trust your intuition more so you can understand why you feel good or bad in any moment and what that means for you in terms of making your next best decision.
How to know which decisions are right for you and how to stop the constant questioning and ruminating in your head.
How to understand and use your emotional responses as a guide that is here to help you rather than confude or hinder you.
How to ask yourself better questions to access your intuition, especially useful when you need to make decisions that scare you.
How to finally trust yourself to be able to access the answers you need from within you to move forward towards what you want to create and away from what you don’t want.
Why it’s key to be able to stay calm and have confidence through active patience and intuition in any situation, whether it’s in relationships, at work, with family or with friends.
I go into this in more detail in the video below. If you would like some 1-to-1 support on how to move forward with your current life situation, fill out my contact form and I’ll get in touch to arrange a free 60 minute coaching session with you.
You Don’t Need to Eliminate the Fear Before You Decide
If you’re stuck between staying and leaving, changing careers or making another decision that could alter your future, forcing yourself to find instant certainty usually creates more pressure. Give yourself permission to slow down, gather what you need and listen more carefully to what your own reactions are telling you. The aim is to become clear enough to trust your next step, even if that step still feels uncomfortable.
Book a free 60-minute callWhy do I feel stuck when I have a big decision to make?
Fear usually increases when the decision could significantly affect your future, your relationship, your career or your sense of security. Your mind may keep running through every possible consequence until you feel unable to move. Slowing down and focusing on the information you actually need can help you get clearer.
What is active patience?
Active patience means giving yourself enough time to make a thoughtful decision while still moving the process forward. You gather information, ask better questions, notice your reactions and keep exploring what you genuinely want. It is very different from simply waiting for circumstances to make the decision for you.
What is the difference between active and passive patience?
Passive patience leaves you waiting for something outside you to change before you act. Active patience keeps you engaged with the decision while allowing clarity to develop. You are still taking responsibility for moving forward even if you are not ready to make the final choice today.
How can I learn to trust my intuition?
Start by paying closer attention to your reactions without immediately judging or obeying them. Ask what a feeling may be telling you about your values, fears or desires. Over time, you can become better at separating a clear internal signal from anxiety, avoidance or overthinking.
How do I know whether a scary decision is the right one?
Fear alone does not mean a decision is wrong. Some of the choices most aligned with what you want may still involve uncertainty, discomfort or risk. Look at whether the decision fits your values, the future you want to create and the information you currently have.
How can I stop constantly questioning my decisions?
Get clearer about the principles you want your decisions to be based on. Once you have gathered enough information and made a choice that aligns with those principles, allow yourself to move forward instead of repeatedly reopening the same decision. Self-trust grows when you learn that you can handle what happens next.
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