Why Did You Stop Trusting Yourself?
Well why did you stop trusting yourself in your relationship? Was is feedback from her or a lack of interest in you that knocked you on your heels? We get knocked back in many areas of our lives yet you can pick yourself up and dust yourself off and move forward confidently the very next day….how come?
In this episode I talk about two traits that you can cultivate that turn things you’re currently allowing to stop you having the life and relationship you want into things you enjoy engaging with again.
In the video below I explain this in more detail including:
Why trusting yourself and having positive regard for others while also believing in your own positive intentions can create a calmer situation and allow for natural connection and fun to grow.
Why positive regard and positive intent are so powerful in creating what you want in your life, your career, and your personal and romantic relationships.
Why building the mental muscle of letting go of past experiences and preconceptions about the future helps you to have a much clearer positive intention for each situation and enables you to trust yourself and be confident in the value that you have to offer.
How trusting yourself is about honing your perception of yourself so that you create a reliable feeling of trust and confidence in who you are and where you’re headed.
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Why trusting yourself means identifying self doubt, having clarity about your positive intentions, and being able to relax and enjoy the moment which is hugely powerful in helping you create a better relationship with others.
Why accepting and allowing yourself to be in the present moment without being affected by the past or the future is the path to a genuine and authentic interaction with someone else.
How stopping the self sabotaging behaviours and thoughts you have about yourself helps you focus on what you want to create such as more fun and passionate connections with others.
And why trust in yourself is essential for being confident in your ability to create what you really want.
I go into this in more detail in the video below. If you would like some 1-to-1 support on how to move forward with your current life situation, fill out my contact form and I’ll get in touch to arrange a free 60 minute coaching session with you.
If You’ve Lost Trust in Yourself, Start There
If every interaction with your partner leaves you wondering whether you said the wrong thing, did too much or somehow made things worse, rebuilding confidence doesn’t start with getting a different response from her. It starts with becoming clearer about your own intentions, your values and the way you want to show up when things feel uncertain. The more you can trust yourself to respond deliberately, the less power fear and self-doubt have over the relationship.
Book a free 60-minute callWhy have I stopped trusting myself in my relationship?
It can happen after repeated rejection, criticism, conflict or simply feeling that your efforts are not being received the way you expected. Over time, you may start questioning your judgement and looking to your partner for reassurance about whether you are doing things right. Rebuilding self-trust means becoming clearer about your own intentions, values and choices again.
How can I rebuild confidence in myself after rejection?
Start by separating another person’s reaction from your value as a man. Rejection can be disappointing without becoming proof that something is wrong with you. Focus on whether you acted honestly and in line with the person you want to be, then use the experience to learn rather than to judge yourself.
What does positive regard mean in a relationship?
Positive regard means approaching yourself and the other person with the assumption that neither of you needs to be treated as the enemy. It does not mean ignoring poor behaviour or avoiding boundaries. It means being willing to look for a more useful interpretation before automatically assuming bad intentions.
How does staying present help me trust myself?
When you are stuck replaying the past or predicting what might go wrong next, it becomes harder to respond to what is actually happening. Staying present gives you more space to notice your thoughts, choose your response and act according to your intentions. That can make your behaviour feel more deliberate and trustworthy to you.
How do I stop second-guessing everything I do in my relationship?
Get clearer about what you are trying to create before you act. If your intention is honest and your behaviour aligns with your values, you do not need to analyse every response from your partner as evidence that you got it right or wrong. Confidence grows when you become more consistent in trusting your own judgement.
Can trusting myself improve my relationship?
It can change the way you show up in the relationship. When you are less consumed by self-doubt, you may become calmer, more honest and more able to enjoy the interaction instead of constantly monitoring how you are being received. Your partner’s response is still outside your control, but your own confidence and behaviour are not.
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