Is Sex So Important That You Would Leave Me and Our Kids?
Have you ever heard your partner say something like “Is sex so important that you would leave me and our kids?” Does it shut down your ability to stand up for what you want from your life and relationship?
In this episode I talk about this in terms of what are you willing to stand for, stand against and what are you not willing to tolerate being a part of your future.
In the video below I explain this in more detail including:
Why attraction is created when you lovingly, calmly and confidently communicate what you want and invite them to join you on your journey which will be full of intimacy and connection.
Why being willing to walk away means holding onto your self-respect and self-worth in any conversation or argument – especially important when someone appears to be trying to shame your sexual desires.
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Why it’s essential to be able to express your true feelings and opinions, even if it means risking the end of the relationship,.
How understanding how each other is feeling is the key to deepening the intimacy and connection in your marriage.
How being willing to walk away from an argument rather than digging in to prove your point is far more likely to create safety, trust, and attraction while also maintaining your personal integrity and self confidence.
Why being willing to walk away from a relationship that isn’t serving you is a powerful way to stand up for yourself and build your self confidence.
Why not letting someone else’s opinion shut down your desires for the kind of life and relationship you want is key in your ability to create that future.
Other articles you may find helpful:
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I go into this in more detail in the video below. If you would like some 1-to-1 support on how to move forward with your current life situation, fill out my contact form and I’ll get in touch to arrange a free 60 minute coaching session with you.
You Don’t Have to Apologise for Wanting an Intimate Marriage
If you’ve become afraid to say what you really want because every conversation turns into guilt, defensiveness or another argument, the answer isn’t to bury the desire and hope the resentment disappears. Get clearer about what intimacy means to you, what you’re willing to work on and what you ultimately need from a long-term relationship. You can communicate that honestly without threatening, pressuring or abandoning your self-respect.
Book a free 60-minute callIs sex important enough to leave a marriage over?
There is no single answer that applies to every couple. For some people, sexual intimacy is an important part of feeling connected, loved and fulfilled in a romantic relationship. What matters is being honest about how important it is to you rather than pretending you are fine with something that is creating deep resentment.
How do I tell my wife that sex and intimacy are important to me?
Speak about what you want rather than accusing her of what she is failing to provide. Explain what intimacy means to you, listen to how she experiences the relationship and try to understand where the difference between you comes from. Honesty does not require pressure or an ultimatum.
What should I do if my wife makes me feel guilty for wanting sex?
Try not to immediately defend yourself or abandon what you want. You can acknowledge her concerns while remaining clear that your desire for intimacy is real and important to you. Neither person needs to be shamed for wanting more or less sex.
What does “being willing to walk away” actually mean?
It means knowing that your self-respect and values are not dependent on keeping the relationship at any cost. It should not mean threatening divorce every time you disagree. Sometimes the strongest move in the moment is simply stepping away from an unproductive argument and returning when both of you can speak more clearly.
How can I stand up for what I want without creating more conflict?
Be direct about your needs without demanding that your partner immediately agree with them. Stay curious about her experience, avoid trying to win the conversation and make your boundaries clear without using anger or fear. You can hold your position and still communicate respectfully.
How do I know if this is something we can work through?
Look at whether both of you are willing to talk honestly, understand each other and make meaningful changes. Differences around sex do not automatically mean the marriage has to end, but avoiding the subject indefinitely usually does not create clarity either. If your needs and visions for the relationship remain fundamentally incompatible, that is important information to take seriously.
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