A Men’s Coach Can Reignite Your Marriage

Hiring a men’s coach will help you get to know and understand yourself, build confidence, renew your self belief and start creating a better career, healthy marriage, healthy relationships with friends and family and an inspiring, fulfilling future.

In the past, coaching was actually referred to as “leadership”.

Most of the men I coach are already very successful leaders in their careers and with their kids but are struggling to have that same level of calm, clear confidence in themselves when it comes to their personal lives and intimate relationships.

We go through a structured process together to identify and expand your understanding of what she needs from you to feel loved and appreciated and become more attracted to you again.

In turn, what you can expect from her is more trust, more respect, and yes, more affection, fun, and intimacy.

People often think that the fun, relaxed, passionate, and sexual part of a relationship, we call the “honeymoon phase,” is only temporary. I know that’s BS. I help men take their marriage to a deeper level of connection, trust, and passion than they’ve ever had before, even in the “honeymoon phase.”

Even marriages that have been going for 25–30 years or more have been rekindled and reached new levels of sexual honesty, openness, and exploration.

There are so many types of coaches, each specialising in a different aspect of life, from general life coaches to executive life coaches, business coaches, career coaches, relationship coaches, divorce coaches, etc., the list goes on.

So What Can A Men’s Coach Help You With?

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  • A men’s coach focuses on giving you the tools to reach your full potential as a man.
  • A men’s coach will teach you to become a trusted leader, a passionate lover, a reliable husband, a great father, and a valued friend.
  • A men’s coach will help you transform your lack of confidence for good.
  • A men’s coach will help you deal with common relationship problems and create more physical intimacy and a healthy sex life in your marriage or long-term relationship.
  • A men’s coach will help you define a life path that gives you more fulfilment, more excitement, more energy, more enthusiasm, more love, more meaningful relationships, more money, and the freedom and flexibility to live your life with a strong sense of self-confidence and a kind, considerate, yet focused masculine energy.

What’s the difference between a men’s coach and a therapist?

Therapy

  • Therapy focuses mainly on the past and the events that caused you to be in the life situation you find yourself in now.
  • It’s a safe place for you to talk about your feelings and release pent-up emotions and fears.

Coaching

  • A men’s coach works ONLY with men.
  • A men’s coach is future-focused. We go through a little reflection on the past to understand how you got here, but then our focus is firmly on creating a new version of you and a new vision with an action plan for you to follow to create the future you really want.
  • Men’s coaches have a unique understanding of what it’s like to live and succeed in today’s world with its popularised negative view of men, manhood, “toxic masculinity”, and “the patriarchy”.

Reasons to Hire a Men’s Coach

It can be intimidating to hire a men’s coach. You may think that reaching out for help is a sign of weakness or that there’s something wrong or broken with you.

Most men are happy to hire coaches to improve their golf swing or get a better return on their financial investment, but the topic of learning “how to be a better man” can trigger feelings of failure because in the past we’ve been shamed for expressing our feelings, such as being told to “man up” or “just be a man.”

Yet working with a men’s coach will help you avoid future failures. It’s also a very understanding, caring, inspiring, and supportive process.

Being able to talk about ANYTHING with someone who really understands what it’s like to be a man struggling with life’s challenges – especially around intimate, romantic relationships – is an incredibly freeing and empowering process.

You will learn how to create a meaningful vision for your future. You will learn how to become a well-rounded, confident, decisive, respected, and resilient man in all parts of your life.

I want you to reach your full potential as a man, who understands what strong masculine leadership looks, sounds, and feels like inside and out.

Here are five signs you might recognise in your relationship which I can help you understand and then learn how to create the passion and closeness you really want.

You’re Doing Your Best In Your Marriage, But It Doesn’t Seem To Be Enough

You’re a long way from that constant happy, falling-in-love feeling you first had together, and you want it back.

You feel weak, unsure and anxious around her.

You try to find the “right things” to say and do, but you’re constantly second-guessing yourself.

You put yourself down and hope she’ll pull you back up with a compliment.

You don’t think highly of yourself, and this has a detrimental effect on your confidence, especially with her.

Either you feel as if you’re not good enough for her, or you may feel like she’s not good enough for you – either way, the connection and intimacy in your marriage is suffering.

You sense that she’d rather be spending time with other people than you.

You have worked hard to make your wife happy, but over time, you’ve found yourself in a relationship where you feel like you’re compromising yourself too much. It seems like she gets what she needs, but you don’t get what you want.

You may be aware that a lot of the problems you’re experiencing are in your head, but you still struggle to soothe your uneasy feelings.

You know you need some strategies to help you overcome these feelings and activate your confidence and self-worth.

You want to learn how to like and appreciate yourself more.

You want to stop thinking and talking negatively about yourself.

You know that the words you use have a big impact on how confident you feel about yourself, but you can’t seem to find the right path forward.

Relationship issues are both the hardest and most challenging problems we ever have to solve, but they’re also moments to learn resourcefulness and self-worth, teaching you how to learn, evolve, and grow into the man you want to be.

If you don’t love and respect yourself, other people, including your wife, will naturally struggle to love and respect you too.

You Keep Making The Same Mistakes

You can’t seem to get over feeling bad about yourself. You keep making decisions that ultimately hurt your relationship and make you feel hopeless.

To identify and break these destructive habits, first, you have to understand where they come from.

Maybe you use alcohol or pot to help you feel less anxious, or you regularly use porn to soothe your unmet sexual needs.

You know that your sexual life and intimacy with your wife is getting worse, but when you try to talk to her about it, you end up in fights that make things even more distant, colder and less connected.

You’re confused and frustrated about how to move things forward from here, and everything you’ve been trying just seems to make things worse.

Hiring a men’s coach who specialises in working with men in long-term relationships can help you figure out what you’re doing wrong and how to turn things around quickly.

Acquiring these new beliefs, skills, and habits requires accountability and practice.

You will need to be patient and consistent in facing difficult thoughts and emotions head-on, learning how to lead the relationship while still allowing her the time to get to know and trust this new version of you.

Everyone makes mistakes, but you can learn to use those mistakes as fuel for your own growth and as connection points that you can laugh about together.

You Aren’t Confident Leading The Sexual Part Of Your Marriage

You know you have sexual wants, needs, fantasies, and desires, but you’re unsure how to express them. Or perhaps you have some fear and shame for even thinking about them, and you certainly can’t tell your wife.

Maybe you don’t have much sexual desire or sexual chemistry between you currently, and although you want to have a better sexual relationship, you’re not confident in your ability to create more sexual attraction, fun, flirtation, connection, passion, and excitement with her.

Being stuck in an emotionally or sexually unhealthy relationship with no idea how to change it or leave is like torture for many men. You may have many reasons to stay in the relationship like kids, and finances, pets and yes, you do still really love this woman, but…

You may feel like you can’t get her to respond sexually anymore, that you’re just friends, co-parents, or roommates, and that you don’t know how to bring back the excitement and attraction you both used to feel around each other.

I can help you with all aspects of sexual confidence, self-belief, and physical attraction.

It’s also incredibly normal and common for men to suffer from performance anxiety around sex. Whether it’s premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, or just over-analyzing and being too “in your head” while trying to connect with her body.

I can help guide you through these issues and out the other side to an honest, fulfilling, and passionate sex life again.

You Find Understanding Your Emotions And Having Emotional Conversations Difficult

You know that feeling…when you’re in a conversation and it feels like she’s running rings around you. She asks you a question, and before you’ve had a chance to work out how you want to respond, she’s moved on to the next question or is frustrated by how long it takes you to answer.

You may think that you have to get your responses “right” or in some way “make her happy” with your answers.

What she’s really looking for is your authentic thoughts and feelings on the topic being discussed, and – this is essential – for you to be able to understand how she’s feeling right now.

But many of us men have been trained not to trust our emotions, and so we only respond logically.

“Well that makes no sense…”

“Well you shouldn’t think / feel that way…”

But when she’s feeling her emotions and we respond with logic, she feels completely misunderstood, and uncared for. If I could pinpoint one major cause of relationship breakdowns, it’s that one or both of the partners feel misunderstood and uncared for.

When she says she wants more time with you, to be listened to, to be prioritised, more connection time, or to feel more desired, what she’s really asking for is your leadership.

She wants you to step up and into your strong masculine energy.

Again, we have no problem doing this at work when challenges arise.

So how can you step into this leading role and create more opportunities for connection to happen?

Will you prioritise her and the relationship over the more menial tasks and work tasks that have to be done?

It seems inconsequential, but these little things show her that you care and that she’s a priority for you.

When you don’t understand what she’s really asking for, you may see her become frustrated and angry towards you, but it’s really just her showing that she cares, saying “ouch, I want to feel loved by you and currently I’m not feeling that”.

The problem isn’t that you’re not a good fit or that you have a bad relationship. Instead, because you don’t understand what she means, you misinterpret her needs.

If you can’t connect with each other on an emotional and intellectual level, your attraction and love for each other will naturally fade.

A men’s coach can act as a “translator,” explaining to you what your wife really wants and needs from you and assisting you in determining how to provide that to her in a way that also empowers you and builds your self-confidence.

Final Thoughts

If you want to improve your life and your marriage but don’t know how to, then working with a men’s coach will make a huge difference.

You’ll find out about who you are as a man, husband, lover, father and friend.

You’ll get clear on what’s important to you and start to build a future filled with meaning and purpose.

You’ll spend time and energy on things that excite and motivate you to grow and evolve to your full potential as a man.

With the right support, it’s amazing how quickly things can turn around in your life.

Few of us had a good, consistent, trustable male role model to show us these things as children; most of us have to figure them out for ourselves from experience or mistakes.

I want to give you a shortcut to finding your own version of strong masculine leadership in all areas of your life.

Are you ready to invest in yourself? Get in touch with me today for a free 60-minute coaching call. You have nothing to lose, and a completely different future to gain.

About the author

Hi, I'm Dan. I've been a men’s coach for many years, mentoring and coaching men to get clear on what they want and creating practical and actionable plans to make it happen. I’ve experienced many of the same challenges you're going through right now. I’m here to challenge you and help you understand what's holding you back so that you can step into the confident, successful man you were meant to be.

Frequently Asked Questions


Is my coaching right for you?

My coaching process was created for men who want to feel happier and more fulfilled in their life and relationships. I teach you how to have more confidence and clarity about what you want in your life and create an action plan to start making it happen.

Do you only work with men in marriage?

While my coaching teaches you how to create a more connected, more fun and passionate marriage, I also work with you to have more clarity, enthusiasm and fulfillment in all areas of your life. I help you understand what you really want your future to look like and I also teach you how to be in control of your emotions so that you can be confident and assertive no matter how difficult your circumstances are right now .

What happens in the free 60-minute coaching call?

In our free initial coaching calls, I listen a lot, I ask you questions to understand what life is really like for you at the moment, I help you identify what you want to be different and what's holding you back from creating those changes now. Then I help you create a practical plan of action to start moving forward straight away.

What will I learn in your coaching programs?

I take you through a process to:

  • Stop being tentative and become more focused and directed.
  • Develop control over your thoughts and emotions like never before.
  • Become a master of the masculine and feminine dance required for a more passionate connection in your romantic relationships.
  • Build and sustain your personal masculine confidence so that you don't get "triggered" or feel disrespected and can respond with strength and confidence to any situation.
  • Become more connected, aware and present with everyone (this is a critical step in your ability to build attraction and desire as well as have people trust you and respect you more).
  • Stop the destructive emotions of anger and resentment which keep you going around in frustrating cycles and start from moving forward with purpose.
  • Stop being anxious, needy and overly reliant upon other people's opinions and approval of you and start feeling more peace, happiness and a deep sense of being a man who is confident in himself again.
  • You will become a confident man who knows his values, what he wants and where he’s going in his life.
  • You will learn how to think, speak and act according to your values without worrying about reactions from others.
  • You become clear and confident in your ability to create intimacy whenever you want.
  • Your confidence will be something that you start to rely on and trust in every part of your life.

How does the coaching program work?

You will have either 2 or 4 coaching calls with me per month, continual access to me via messenger or email throughout the process, ongoing assignments and resources to help you stay focused and grow and develop as a confident masculine man. It's like having a trusted mentor in your pocket, ready to help whenever you need it.

Why do you only offer 1-to-1 coaching and not group coaching?

I prefer to work with men 1-to-1 because I can really get to know you and unearth the best path forward for you and your current circumstances.

1-to-1 has the benefit over group coaching of creating much faster progress towards what you want to change in your life. You get much more personal time and attention with 1-to-1 coaching and it's adapted to your specific circumstances so provides the specific practical advice you need to know what to think, say and do to create the future you want.

What kind of man is right for your coaching?

I work with men who are willing to take the lead in creating the changes they want in their life and relationships. I only work with men who want to understand their fears, insecurities and shame triggers. I teach you practical ways to deal with the mental and emotional challenges life throws at you and help you reach an unshakeable confidence in yourself (often for the first time in your life).

  • You won’t find negative, hateful language.
  • You won’t find a gender war – I don’t bash women.
  • You won’t find bitching, whining, complaining, and blaming.
  • You won’t feel like a victim anymore.
  • You won’t experience any judgment or criticism (seems obvious but a lot of the men I speak to have felt this from past therapists or coaches that they have worked with).

I don't waste our time with all those things because I want to take the most efficient and effective path to creating the future you want. So I focus only on the things that are within your control: your thoughts, your words and your actions.

How do I know if I need coaching?

If you are feeling unhappy a lot of the time, if you're lonely, drained, lost, stuck or trapped, then our coaching will help. If you're not sure where your life is headed, if you're not confident in yourself, if you're not sure what you really want in life anymore...my coaching will help.

Whether it’s your job, your intimate relationship, or just wanting to feel more happy and with more purpose, then my coaching will help.

If you are tired of settling for a mediocre life or relationship, tolerating criticism and a lack of fun and intimacy and you're done with placating and playing it safe, then my coaching will help.

I will help you have clarity about what you're REALLY passionate about. I will get you clear about where you want to be in six months and in six years. I help you figure out what you really want to create vs what other people think you should do.

I help you take action, get unstuck, start moving forward. I help you find what matters instead of just "being busy" in the daily grind. I help you figure out how you're going to get from where you are now to where you want to be.

For many of the guys I work with, they find a peace and a sense of emotional freedom that has them shaking their heads and smiling at how they used to approach life. They feel passionate about life again. They build stronger relationships with the people that matter most to them. They feel satisfied and fulfilled that they have finally found the “right path” forward and life starts to feel fun and inspiring again.

So now you've read that...what do you think? Would YOU like to try some of my coaching for free?