Control How Long You Last During Sex

Do you suffer with premature ejaculation (PE)? Want to control how long you last during sex? Is it having a damaging effect on your self confidence, your sexual confidence and your overall happiness in life, with women or in your sexual, intimate connection in your marriage?

In this episode I talk to Keeley Rankin who is a Sex and Relationship coach from California, we discuss her work with men around this issue for the past 14 years, what she’s learnt, how she helps her clients, the stages she takes them through in her program and whether there are specific problems or causes that need special attention, plus the role of shame and performance anxiety in early ejactulation.

Here’s the scene…it’s on, you can feel there’s a vibe between you and it’s been building all day…sooner or later you know that this sexual tension is going to need to be expressed physically together.

Little touches, flirtatious looks, innuendos, giggling…there’s an electricity crackling between you and any moment it’s about to ignite.

Then, later, in the moment when you’re body’s are doing the talking, you’re full of anticipation, pleasure and excitement and the fuse between you is lit and heading towards lift off, suddenly the fireworks fizzle out and it’s all over too quickly, leaving you feeling deflated and frustrated.

Premature ejaculation (PE) isn’t just about how many minutes you achieved, how many pumps you cycled through; it’s a real emotional gut punch that can leave you questioning your masculinity, your self confidence, and even your value as a man.

Orgasming earlier than you want to is a very painful emotional experience for most of us men.

And after it happens the experience isn’t done with you yet….

There’s a voice in your head whispering, “Not good enough,”

There’s a shame knot tightening in your stomach.

The awkward silence that hangs heavy in the air after a climax which was more like tripping over into a mud puddle than reaching the mountain top and surveying your kingdom

You lie there feeling awful and that blissful moment you wanted to share together is nowhere to be seen. It’s not just about failing to live up to some standard of “manliness.” PE can be a real barrier to connection, trust and intimacy, making us hesitant to be sexual again with her.

Sex turns from a joyous shared exploration into a lonely battleground of anxiety, performance pressure and inner ridicule. The emotional effect can spill over into other areas of our lives too.

You might start avoiding relationships altogether, fearing the inevitable disappointment.

You might become withdrawn, isolated, and struggle with self-esteem.

But there’s some good news.

This is not a life sentence. PE is waaaay more common than you think, affecting millions of men around the world. And….it’s absolutely treatable.

If you’ve ever struggled to last longer in bed, today’s episode where I talk to PE expert Keeley Rankin is for you:

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YES! There really is a proven path to reclaiming your sexual confidence and building healthy control over when YOU CHOOSE to orgasm

Remember, you’re not alone in this. There’s a whole community of men who understand the struggle and are ready to support you.

Don’t be afraid to share your story, seek help, and believe in your ability to overcome this challenge. Reclaiming your sexual power starts with a choice to take back control of your sexuality and your masculinity.

Your sexual confidence, you MOJO is defined by your strength, resilience, and willingness – COURAGE – to face your challenges head-on.

But you’re much more likely to succeed with other men who have walked this path before you supporting you through the process.

The self criticism and isolation are some of the most painful aspects of this difficult experience.

But it doesn’t have to be like this!

This experience is something almost ALL men go through at some point in their lives. It’s THAT common. Learning how to embrace and work with your sensations rather than avoid them or try and distract yourself will radically change your self control even at those heightened moments of pleasure.

Reviewing how you view and use porn is important to understand how you’re training your sexual nervous system.

Getting to know what you really want and like is crucial as well as being able to slow down, allow yourself to relax and enjoy the experience.

Being able to identify where your arousal is at on a scale helps you know where your sweet spot is and start to be able to surf on the crest of the wave without being pulled under.

For more information about Keeley Rankin and her premature ejaculation course visit:

And if you want to find that calm, confident masculine sexual energy inside you, I want to help you get there.

If you would like some 1-to-1 support on how to move forward with this, fill out my contact form and I’ll get in touch to arrange a free 60 minute coaching session with you.

About the author

Hi, I'm Dan. I've been a men’s coach for over 10 years with Goodguys2Greatmen, mentoring and coaching men to get clear on what they want and creating practical and actionable plans to make it happen. I’ve experienced many of the same challenges you're going through right now. I’m here to challenge you and help you understand what's holding you back so that you can step into the confident, successful man you were meant to be.