One Habit To Stop To Have More Confidence

Do you feel unsure and tentative in your relationship? Want to know about the one habit to stop to have more confidence?

In this episode I talk about the habit of comparing yourself to other people or even to an imagined “perfect” version of yourself and then using that comparison to wallow in self doubt, self pity and self destructive thinking – which of course makes us feel even more unconfident – I also give you a new way to think about feedback you receive which isn’t positive (at first glance).

In the video below I explain this in more detail including:

Why you should stop comparing yourself to others and instead focus on your own growth and improvement as a man.

How stopping the habit of comparing yourself to others boosts your self confidence and helps you to follow through on the goals you set yourself and the commitments you make to others – in other words you start to trust yourself more and other people trust you more too.

Why when you stop comparing yourself to others you can finally define a clear direction to focus on in each part of your life and as you start to take action working towards building those areas of your life, you will start to feel stronger and happier.

Why it’s so important to stop blaming other people and external factors that you have no control over to start feeling confident again.

Why comparing yourself to others holds you back from showing up fully as a confident man in your marriage or long-term relationship.

Why focusing on getting clear on what you want and then taking action towards those things will gradually build your sense of self worth and belief in your ability to create the life you want, learning and growing from your mistakes and experiences along the way.

When you stop comparing yourself to others, you can focus on how you can improve as a man, as a partner, as a dad, as a friend, as a son, as a brother, as a leader and as an example that inspires others to do the same.

How often we compare ourselves to other people and feel shame or that we’re failing in some way, yet there is a way that you can use comparison to others as a powerful fuel for your growth and clarity about what you want to create in the future.

How to recognize tension in your body as a sign that you are comparing yourself to someone else and criticising yourself in the process, and instead, know how to use the tension as useful information to know what you need to focus on next.

I go into this in more detail in the video below. If you would like some 1-to-1 support on how to move forward with your current life situation, fill out my contact form and I’ll get in touch to arrange a free 60 minute coaching session with you.

About the author

Hi, I'm Dan. I've been a men’s coach for over 10 years with Goodguys2Greatmen, mentoring and coaching men to get clear on what they want and creating practical and actionable plans to make it happen. I’ve experienced many of the same challenges you're going through right now. I’m here to challenge you and help you understand what's holding you back so that you can step into the confident, successful man you were meant to be.